How to normalize perfection + Free worksheet

Society has a volatile relationship with perfection. At times it is highly sought-after; it’s the only option. In other moments we reject perfection, and it becomes a crippling cloak of conformity. I welcome perfection and have found a way to embrace it without guilt or self-doubt. I believe perfection is possible when we define it for ourselves.

Ignoring the “enoughs”

Creating my own definition of perfection has allowed me to leap over the traditional hurdles that can keep me from moving forward. Once, the little voices of self-doubt kept me from accomplishing tasks, reaching goals, or completing projects. The “enoughs” stopped me in my tracks: “Not good enough,” “not prepared enough”, “just plain not enough.” I believed that without absolute perfection, there was no point.

Collect daily satisfaction

But there were days where although I didn’t do everything I wanted to, I still felt okay. In fact, I felt great. Taking steps, doing some of the work, getting almost there, made me feel just as accomplished. I began to realize that if I removed absolution from my idea of perfection and defined it by my steps rather than my goal I could feel satisfaction every day. It is that daily satisfaction that motivates me to keep going and allows me to have sustained feelings of accomplishment. By redefining perfection I was able to achieve it.

Ask yourself, “what does perfection look like?” Then break that down into pieces. Perfection doesn’t have to be “completing an essay,” it could be just collecting sources and writing the outline. Allow yourself to feel good about visible progress.

Pile on the perfection

For me, perfection isn’t just completing tasks for work and school. I define it by the regular things I do as well. There are things I do almost every day without fail: Make my bed, turn on the Christmas lights, feed my cat Atticus. I add these to my list of perfection, which allows me to get that daily satisfaction even on particularly tough days.

No longer does perfection have to be something unattainable or negative. We can make it normal if we define it for ourselves and blend it into who we already are. A perfect day can be waking up early, working out, going to class and work, studying for 3 hours before eating a healthy well-rounded meal and getting 8 hours of sleep. A perfect day can also be staying in bed until two, binge-watching The West Wing on Netflix, and only leaving the house to check the mail. Your life is perfect if you say it is!

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Normalizing Perfection Worksheet


Intro to the Anti-aging face massage

One of my first forays into the world of Asian beauty was learning about lymphatic facial massages. Thanks to the book “The Japanese Skincare Revolution” by Chizu Saeki I learned about the “natural, low-cost techniques” for smoothing out wrinkles, plumping the skin, and even combating oiliness. Continue reading “Intro to the Anti-aging face massage”

#FurnitureFriday Instagram Roundup

If you follow me on Instagram – you should – then you’ve seen my weekly posts about the different furniture projects I’ve completed this past year. I love DIY projects and updating regular pieces to make them fit better into my home décor style. My mom recently called my apartment eclectic, but a discerning observation would identify the heavy influences of Hollywood regency and mid-century modern. Continue reading “#FurnitureFriday Instagram Roundup”

The Charm & Savvy Asian Beauty Primer Part 1

As I type this, I am wearing a sheet mask. Soon I will continue with the rest of my regimen applying routine. To many this may seem extreme and confusing, but that’s why we’re here: to simplify the Asian (typical Korean and Japanese) beauty process (I refrain from calling it a “craze” as that erases the culture that existed well before America grabbed it). Continue reading “The Charm & Savvy Asian Beauty Primer Part 1”

How to set up a working princess phone

Breakfast at Tiffany’s is one of my favorite movies, and if I’m being honest, Holly Golightly inspires many aspects of my self-care and leisure routine. Eye masks for naps (I have 3). Random trips to my favorite store to center myself (Target). Wistfully strumming away at a ukulele (I can play Moon River among other songs). Casually sipping all drinks from a champagne coupe (like my homemade almond milk).

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The forgotten skincare secret

We all know the benefits of sunscreen, right? It’s one of the most basic steps to long-term skin health and a youthful appearance.

Consider what else we know: thin skin succumbs to wrinkles easily. This means the neck, décolletage, and hands show signs of aging. So even if you have been diligent about applying an effective anti-aging regimen (with sunscreen!) to your face since your teenage years, other areas of your skin will easily reveal how long you’ve been around. This may not be a concern for women in their 20’s, but as with many things, getting an early start is a good thing. Continue reading “The forgotten skincare secret”