How to normalize perfection + Free worksheet

Society has a volatile relationship with perfection. At times it is highly sought-after; it’s the only option. In other moments we reject perfection, and it becomes a crippling cloak of conformity. I welcome perfection and have found a way to embrace it without guilt or self-doubt. I believe perfection is possible when we define it for ourselves.

Ignoring the “enoughs”

Creating my own definition of perfection has allowed me to leap over the traditional hurdles that can keep me from moving forward. Once, the little voices of self-doubt kept me from accomplishing tasks, reaching goals, or completing projects. The “enoughs” stopped me in my tracks: “Not good enough,” “not prepared enough”, “just plain not enough.” I believed that without absolute perfection, there was no point.

Collect daily satisfaction

But there were days where although I didn’t do everything I wanted to, I still felt okay. In fact, I felt great. Taking steps, doing some of the work, getting almost there, made me feel just as accomplished. I began to realize that if I removed absolution from my idea of perfection and defined it by my steps rather than my goal I could feel satisfaction every day. It is that daily satisfaction that motivates me to keep going and allows me to have sustained feelings of accomplishment. By redefining perfection I was able to achieve it.

Ask yourself, “what does perfection look like?” Then break that down into pieces. Perfection doesn’t have to be “completing an essay,” it could be just collecting sources and writing the outline. Allow yourself to feel good about visible progress.

Pile on the perfection

For me, perfection isn’t just completing tasks for work and school. I define it by the regular things I do as well. There are things I do almost every day without fail: Make my bed, turn on the Christmas lights, feed my cat Atticus. I add these to my list of perfection, which allows me to get that daily satisfaction even on particularly tough days.

No longer does perfection have to be something unattainable or negative. We can make it normal if we define it for ourselves and blend it into who we already are. A perfect day can be waking up early, working out, going to class and work, studying for 3 hours before eating a healthy well-rounded meal and getting 8 hours of sleep. A perfect day can also be staying in bed until two, binge-watching The West Wing on Netflix, and only leaving the house to check the mail. Your life is perfect if you say it is!

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#FurnitureFriday Instagram Roundup

If you follow me on Instagram – you should – then you’ve seen my weekly posts about the different furniture projects I’ve completed this past year. I love DIY projects and updating regular pieces to make them fit better into my home décor style. My mom recently called my apartment eclectic, but a discerning observation would identify the heavy influences of Hollywood regency and mid-century modern. Continue reading “#FurnitureFriday Instagram Roundup”

How to set up a working princess phone

Breakfast at Tiffany’s is one of my favorite movies, and if I’m being honest, Holly Golightly inspires many aspects of my self-care and leisure routine. Eye masks for naps (I have 3). Random trips to my favorite store to center myself (Target). Wistfully strumming away at a ukulele (I can play Moon River among other songs). Casually sipping all drinks from a champagne coupe (like my homemade almond milk).

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In bocca al lupo, crepi al lupo

“In bocca il lupo, crepi il lupo” is an Italian idiom used in opera and theater and is like the English phrase “Break a leg.” I discovered the phrase the night before I took the LSAT. I was reading a law school forum about getting into law school (when I probably should have been sleeping or thinking about something else), and someone posted the phrase to wish others well. Continue reading “In bocca al lupo, crepi al lupo”

How to effectively stand still

Progress is always happening. There’s the notion that if you aren’t constantly moving then you are staying in place. And with that comes the thought that if you are staying in place, you are somehow wasting your life. I wholeheartedly reject both of these ideas. I believe that there can be much growth in stillness, and you can have effective stillness by becoming more aware of things you don’t normally pay attention to. Continue reading “How to effectively stand still”